I think of the balances that you struck incredibly was this balance between intimacy and honesty about oneself, and not being like "Eat, Pray, Love" narcissistic. And I don't know if you can explain a little bit about your approach there, and if it's intentional, and how you handled those things. That's a really good question.
You don't have to raise your hand, but I hear that a lot. Narcissistic. A little bit selfish. A little bit uh, right?
political candidates. Here's one we identified. Narcissism looks like-- I kid you not.
The second category is an obsessive and he talked about productive obsessives, these are people who make the trains run on time, they're typically a side kick to the productive narcissist, they can help the visionary realize their vision by executing it. Tim Cook is a classic, the current CEO of Apple, is a classic productive obsessive and he's been in that role at Apple as Jobs' sidekick for 10 years and now we'll see how the productive
I personally feel, as a psychiatrist and an empath, that it's so vital to listen to that inner voice. Not narcissists. But they are not-- they cannot understand what you're going through, your emotional state.
they just blow the up and last one we have narcissistic problematic Priscilla where the world is constantly always about her and there's always
What I believed was that there was a customer out there who is what I would call post W, pre-Four Seasons. And what I mean by that is they've sort of outgrown the sort of narcissistic, hedonistic, you have to wear black to walk through the lobby kind of boutique hotel. Have you ever been to one of those before and felt maybe out of place? Well I do because I'm old.
uh she she told me the one drug she couldn't quit was Googling herself. So, I feel like this is the golden triangle of narcissistic celebrity culture, and damn am I happy to be here. So, uh I figure most of you people have no idea who the I am and and are just like here to, you know,
But it may be that in addition to us now having the opportunity To connect in the inner and outer regions more frequently. We are also more narcissistic in the sense that we want to find people who share our views and share our proclivities. That it is uncomfortable to have an interaction with someone who we discover voted for the other presidential candidate in the last election, or the last two elections,
In that book, you argued pretty convincingly that there was a growing contempt for knowledge and expertise alongside a culture of narcissism. And as a result of all that, we had a political system that was becoming almost suicidally stupid.
And then kind of on that thread, so I feel like I've personally learned a lot of lessons from chess. Why are we so narcissistic?
And if you can open yourself up to that, and you pick up, they're really insecure, they're really unhappy people. Or they're narcissistic people. They're not capable of empathy.
kids are totally egocentric. That's a narcissistic personality disorder. But you're a kid.
So one of them is the narcissist. So the narcissist is I, me, mine. Everything is all about me.
I just know it's not. It's narcissistic. It feels good to say that. Then I will have relieved a kind of anxiety that I've been feeling.
The origins of narcissism, quite simply, are that we humans spend an inordinate amount of time being raised by our parents, much longer
I'm not a narcissist." The second thing you have to realize is that you're basically a functional narcissist.
She's a narcissistic insomniac, preventing others from sleeping if she cannot.
I've climbed with narcissists.
Because they just think of themselves, and they don't really care about what you're feeling because they lack empathy. The full blown narcissist, who are self-absorbed-- they become cold, withholding, and punishing when you don't do things their way. So it doesn't make for a great management style.
I personally feel, as a psychiatrist and an empath, that it's so vital to listen to that inner voice. And so narcissists who don't have empathy don't like it when you don't do things their way.
It can lead to narcissism or hubris.
of the sort of narcissist acting teacher.
rather explicitly. They're like, those poor immigrants, ha, ha, ha, ha. We can code narcissism by facial expressions that show a lot of self-love, that might remind you of today's political candidates. Here's one we identified.
And a narcissist doesn't have the empathy gene.
The effect of narcissism on career success has been studied at the level of presidents, but it's also been studied at the levels of selection
I'm a narcissist. It's one of myself.
I talked about the narcissistic me.
them much less narcissistic, and much less preoccupied with everything happening in their lives.
have a narcissistic number with more than 39 digits, OK.
Sociopaths and narcissists. They're cancerous cells.
They look at the narcissistic variety of takers, and they show that takers actually post vainer profile pictures of themselves.
So here's my narcissistic creativity as a young kid.
And as I was readin' this I was thinking, "My God this person is describing Steve Jobs without using his name." And then in fact Jobs did appear as an example in Maccoby's work. The productive narcissist, and I mentioned that Maccoby was a business coach and a trained psychotherapist, the productive narcissist is someone who can channel their narcissism in a productive way and he worked with clients to help them be not less narcissistic but more productively narcissistic.
like someone is diagnosed as having narcissism. Or they're subclinical, which is you don't quite meet the threshold, but you have traits that are related, and that are so important for us to
I think we're such a narcissistically preoccupied culture, and this is very modern and new that people are as preoccupied with themselves and their own identity building.
Sometimes, you know, you don't know what the hell you're doing. So one of them is the narcissist. So the narcissist is I, me, mine.
There's also a little bit of narcissism that's involved with getting online to complain about something.
Homo sapiens is just a really narcissistic species.
It's amazing in our narcissistic world how little we think about others.
in that moment as an energy vampire, but that's their personality. They're full on complete narcissist or something lacking. Neuroplasticity teaches that our brain's neural circuitry is malleable.
And you don't want to be shut off. But if you do have narcissists here, just take advantage of all their strengths. Nobody's all bad. There's a Buddha and a demon inside everybody.
We can go through a bad period. So I think with a narcissist, if you look at what they can give to a work environment and not expect them to be your best friend-- a lot of patients who come to me have narcissistic bosses.
I personally feel, as a psychiatrist and an empath, that it's so vital to listen to that inner voice. they might not be necessarily narcissistic.
So if you look at narcissists, narcissists do better in job interviews, they do better on first dates.
That is an easy path to narcissism, and sometimes the White House.
some sort of um pleasing Nancy inside of us and we have some sort of narcissistic Priscilla inside of us right it just depends on the time how many follow yeah okay
Then when that candidate came became popular, I was like, oh my god. And what we find is Machiavellian narcissists get disrespected by their peers in the Senate and get less support for the bills they advocate. The senators who are more courageous and humane get greater support.
And I was actually raised by a narcissist.
Because despite being a self-absorbed recovering narcissist, I love being up here.