we've used and I think um I've long believed um that we've evolved three distinctly different brain systems for mating and reproduction sex drive craving for sexual gratification uhromantic love uh craving for um um uh a particular human being and attachment
you that feeling Elation and focus and motivation in this case the motivation to win Life's greatest prize which is a mating partner right near it the yellow dot is um umuh the hypothalamus it's actually not in that same brain stem but it lies right next to it and it orchestrates uh the
with motivation as I said the motivation to win life's greatest prize which is a mating partner they evolved over uh 4 million years ago uh we call them uhsurvival mechanisms they lie right next to thirst and hunger you know uh Our dating sites are not going to change
He is attracted to this, so he never actually finds the real female. So mating doesn't occur, so eggs aren't laid, so worms don't grow, and you have clean fruit. So it's kind of an interesting cycle.
and makes them stand there and watch. During mating season, that's a turkey morning. They just have sex until quote unquote-- from Matt, Bizzy's husband, they have quote, "They have sex until their peckers hurt." That's their morning.
Without recourse to AI, you can simply play those sounds back to elephants and see what they do. Similarly with mating calls, elephants-- female elephants are only in estrus once every four years. Male elephants will come running from a very, very long way away when they hear that special call.
And they all sing together. They create music for mating rituals and all of the other reasons we, too, sing. But then something happened through time, through history.
Well, familiarity breeds contempt. I just read "Mating in Captivity." "Mating in Captivity," good example. Esther Perel says, don't wear that flannel nightgown ladies, because it'll turn your partner off.
There are about 5,000 known species of jumping spiders. And so these mating practices between different spiders are, like, all over the place.
ago but I've come to believe that we've evolved three very different basic brain systems from mating and reproduction one is the sex drive the craving for sexual gratification wh ORD called toble neural itch uh uh associated with testosterone in both men and women um you can feel it
important, right for your brain. You know for survival reasons, is this person a threat? Are they a mating opportunity? Do they have food? What are their hands doing? You know you care about this stuff at a very base level. Right? So I've just come up with my own system and so it's been very easy for me to take photos.
But I do think you have to have a backup plan. There's something about this mating dance that I do not understand.
right now is this issue of individual DNA how your individual DNA from your parents meeting and mating um determines not only you but how your individual mating may affect your children's political ideology and other characteristics so the classic work on selection which again was done from a a so you know a socialization perspective by David bus in the 70s um looked at
She's widely celebrated as one of the most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships and the complex science behind human interaction. She's also the bestselling author of "Mating in Captivity Unlocking Erotic Intelligence." She's a Belgian native, and she's fluent in nine languages. Her Ted Talks have also been viewed over 10 million times.
Most of them affect fertility, and that's both of queens and of drones. So both halves of the mating system. If you have drones that are sterile or drones that have sperm that's affected that goes and mates with the queen that's supposed
And it's not a ridiculous theory. Bees kind of facilitate the mating dance between plants.
know you can get instantly afraid of something and you can instantly fall in love and I think it comes from uh I mean a squirrel in the beginning of the Mating Season she's got to find another squirrel and she can't spend three years discussing his College Plan she's got to get on with his project and you can see in all kinds of animals an instant attraction uh to particular individuals
There will be "wanting systems," as some people call them, that create desires for doing certain things. They see an opportunity for getting food or getting mating or avoiding something. And then there seems to be liking systems-- the systems that actually, when they're activated, correspond to pleasure.
about in the book and what I wish that my son would experience is street cruising because when when everybody's down on their phone looking for a hook-up they're missing this great ritual that this mating dance that we used to have where you would walk down the street see a cute guy your eyes would meet you'd keep walking you'd look
heritable then the most important choice you make in your children in determining your children's uh political ideology is your choice of mate so that brings us back to how mating actually contributes to the development and polarization of um politics over time and that's what I want to spend a little bit of time talking about before uh having a
asked people basically what the characteristics were that um and these were done in straight populations remember this was done in the 70s before um there was quite as much attention to homosexual mating but this was really about heterosexual mating because um we were really looking at at children so um when he looked at them you can see there's a lot of overlap between what
now men really care a lot more about how much money their um female counterparts make so that's becomes um much more important than physical attractiveness in recent studies uh in um mail mating so that's the only part in which it's really significantly different than it was in the 70s so one of the stud we did is um we
wrong about what matters in their mate choices so they think that what matters is that they share interests like going to the movies or going to the beach but if you look at what happens in long-term mating what holds people together that's not it so then the question com is it really about politics and I want to show
Go to YouTube and do a search for mating ritual or mating fight of the sarcastic fringehead.
He also liked fishing, mating -- --and all these things come together--
They can just use the bone for quickie mating .
And she also lectures on evolutionary psychology and human mating strategies at California State University, Channel Islands.
So let's talk about what is natural mating .
But I don't find it anymore inspiring to hear someone's indie rock mating call, which is essentially what it is, next to say the housekeeping person singing out
And even then, he's still mating within his own gene pool.
It's this idea of getting the social behavior and interactions between mating males and resident females, and how as an entire population they're working together.
This one is a bit more controversial because we're talking about mating preferences.
Switching gears. At the end of a successful mating encounter, you might have a child and so this
what we do and last uh the brain region for attachment enables you to tolerate this person so the the sex drive gets you out looking for a range of Partners romantic love enables you to focus your mating energy on just one at a time and the third brain region of attachment enables you to stick with this person tolerate them at least um at least long
becomes sexually attractive and it's because the dopamine system is driving up the testosterone system and the sex drive that's the whole point of romantic love to start the mating process but can the reverse be true can you have sex with somebody and then fall in love with them well not always uh most uh uh um
It's a circle of friends. It's a giant, campus-wide mating ritual.
This one always makes me think of the Larson cartoon about the mating calls, shows the guy in the bar at the end-- hey baby, hey baby.
People cheat because there's an opportunity. People cheat, as Esther points in "Mating in Captivity," to feel alive. People cheat for all sorts of reasons, not all of them-- and I usually, when I start talking about this these days, because I'm such a fan of Esther,
pretend sex scene but it's about you know you know the the the goddess mating with the horned God in order to
And it's not a ridiculous theory. And they're kind of acting as kind of a third party in the mating of all these plants.
Guys, you gotta click these lions are mating . You gotta see this. This is an incredible scene." So, I had my cameras ready, the guy with me was like that girl, right, that you
you the second uh uh dramatic feeling is motivation an intense motivation to win this person indeed the motivation to win Life's greatest prize which is an appropriate mating partner and last but not least of the main characteristics of romantic love is um obsessive thinking you can't stop thinking about this person as a matter of fact before I put
And this does not change seasonally as we had previously thought, or during the mating season, or with changes in temperatures.
and women on the site, activating you want to call it the mating goal or the idea of finding a mate and partner or sex, whatever you want to call it,
they would come together and then they would rub against each other for a while as though they were mating .
And so all of these mechanisms ensure that a woman is more likely to advertise herself in the mating market when, evolutionarily speaking,
physiological issues we have lots of other things going on in development but what I'm going to have pay attention to right now is this issue of individual DNA how your individual DNA from your parents meeting and mating um determines not only you but how your individual mating may affect your children's political ideology and other characteristics so the classic work on
But they're meant to grip on and enable the males to go for their sort of fast and furious mating style.
It's something that we do, pre-bonding and pre-mating -- same with them.
important techniques probably are practicing king and pawn endings, typical mating nets of the way certain pieces come together, let's say against the castled king.