How to pronounce “gottman” in English

And so John Gottman-- he has this experiment where he takes couples that are quarreling, maybe going to get divorced, and he puts them

So John Gottman, famous relationship psychologist, talks about basically having a relationship bank account,

Together with the Gottman Institute clinical director, Laura co-developed the Gottman Seven Principles Program and is also the author of the "Seven Principles Companion

John and Julie Gottman, who study marriage at the Love Lab in Seattle, have found that there's something known as a magic ratio

So I use a lot of John Gottman's research from the Gottman Institute because he's a scientist, and I love him, and he's studied thousands of couples-- successful couples,

Recently, I think John Gottman said when you got home and you greet your partner at the end of the day, you should kiss for six seconds.

So Dr. John Gottman is actually here in Seattle.

She recently served in a leadership role at the Gottman Institute as the Director of Professional Development.

heard of Dr. John Gottman or are familiar with the "Seven Principles" book?

as far as Dr. Gottman's research and how he came to come about all of this information.

So Dr. Gottman originally started out as a mathematics major at MIT.

So Dr. Gottman went from MIT, and then he went over to the University of Indiana.

So Dr. Gottman says at the time that his relationships were not going so hot at the time.

But Dr. Gottman wanted to predict behavior with two people.

But Dr. Gottman assures us that it was very relaxing for couples and it was a lot like a bed and breakfast.

So Dr. Gottman found that something was happening.

So Dr. Gottman found that in order to have a strong relationship, it has to be a foundation of friendship.

With everything that Dr. Gottman does, it is a motto of small things often.

Dr. Gottman really wanted to figure out what is it that the masters are doing to solve their conflict.

What Dr. Gottman found is that he was doing these longitudinal studies.

And I am so glad that we can welcome Doctor John Gottman and Doctor Julie Schwartz Gottman here today.

Eventually, I went out to The Gottman Institute in Seattle, and I got professionally connected with them as an educator, which just means I can teach their stuff,

was done by Dr. John Gottman.

The nice part about Dr. Gottman's principles is that it's not just about intimate relationships, although those are the ones that he was studying.

Eventually what ended up happening is that Dr. Gottman found that when men were saying no, when they weren't even willing to entertain negotiation with their partner,

So, first we have Doctor John Gottman.

So, first I'll introduce the Gottmans and then I'll ask them some questions, and then we'll invite you all up at the end to ask questions

97% of the time, their research shows, at The Gottman Institute, if you start out a conversation with a criticism, you won't be able to recover that conversation--

I am not going to be as charismatic or funny or brilliant as John Gottman, but I will certainly try to give you as much information in as short

The reason why this book is so important is that Dr. Gottman has been studying couples for 40 years.

Well, Dr. Gottman was able to notice that the couples who'd ended up divorcing, there were four patterns that were specifically and incredibly

Contempt is what Dr. Gottman refers to as sulfuric acid on the relationship.

In fact, Dr. Gottman found that if I'm contemptuous to my partner, in the next four years, he is more likely to have communicable diseases.

We've covered the friendship foundation and now we're starting to get into what Dr. Gottman noticed with couples, which is letting your partner influence you.

Most of Dr. Gottman's research, especially with the research lab, is coming from I think the '90s, actually.

He's also the co-founder of the Gottman Institute with his wife, and he's professor emeritus

Workbook," a tool for couples to use in conjunction with the "Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" book by Dr. John Gottman.

It wasn't without the bleeding heart of his beautiful, wonderful wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, that really got him interested in taking this data

So now I want to start talking about, we've talked about the four destructive patterns that Dr. Gottman discovered.

So if those are what are the difficulties that couples are having, what are the things that Dr. Gottman found will increase and make your relationship better?

OK, so truth be told, Dr. Gottman found that of all conflict with couples that were thriving, that were happy, they were only able to solve

How can I help?'" Psychologist, researcher, and bestselling author John Gottman, and he's also my personal crush, ends in anecdote from his book

Even in couples, there are people-- there's a couple of psychologists by the last name of Gottman in the Seattle area, and they study couples.

John and Julie Gottman, who study marriage at the Love Lab in Seattle,

If you look at the marriage research, John Gottman up in Seattle who studies marriage has found that a spouse's willingness to take