but we're also just like she really is my best friend. She's the person I talk to about everything. She's my closest confidant . And yet there are all kinds of times during our 12-year marriage where I've just hadthis thought like there's no way this is going to last. Either because she's taken the kids to the grocery store and
Food has a way of doing that, doesn't it? It can be your confidant , your best friend, your lover-- whatever you want it to be. And for some people it's not food.
they they they did a survey based on a big Social Survey and they looked at the proportion of American adults who said they have no Confidant no close friends and it went from about 1 in 10 in 1985 which is fairly consistent with the long literature of studies of on on social
I see. Well Ingrid is someone who, I think, sets goals like that for herself. He really is her one confidant and close friend who she can go to for candid conversations about some of these issues.
I see. Well Ingrid is someone who, I think, sets goals like that for herself. But Ingrid is his closest confidante and friend at the firm because he's someone who, unlike Murph-- he's sort of the anti-Murph.
together. And he would download his day. And he really-- she was his muse and his confidant and his advisor. And I just thought that's what a marriage should be like.
And I will never make that same mistake again. despite the advice of some of his closest confidants .
And then how do we get it back? So Mikey was a best friend, a confidant , like a brother to you. He helped you through a lot of things in your life.
And then trying to access resources that he didn't know, his family didn't really know. So he was coming-- he was speaking with me as like kind of a confidant in terms of his sexuality, but then he really needed to access resources and help for continuing his education, finding financing for that, which was actually probably one of the harder
know this is an image from USA Today the authors were on the Today Show and CNN and every publication in the world did a feature on them because that's an incredible finding right right one and four Americans have no Confidant and even that claim doesn't come out of nowhere there's a long history in the social sciences of looking at the
We all have them. -Because I had that other perspective of poverty to fight for something, just that confidant right next to you, like, we're going to do it.
So how did you approach being close and maintaining your friendship as co-founders? So I think the thing that's unique about us is that we've been friends for so long and have been confidants and colleagues, also, for so long that a lot of our friendship, in the very beginning stages, was actually based on the fact that we would meet after work
So next, an even more alarming study talking about in 1985, the "American Sociological Review" did a study. And what they found was that in 1985, the average person had three confidantes , three people that they could confide in, that they considered close friends. When they redid that study in 2004, that number dropped from a three to one close confidant ,
It's a really unique environment, obviously. Who did you confide in, and who were your instrumental friends and confidantes ?
Yes, Mother, it is Swati." I'll stop there. So what that establishes is that-- what's happening in that scene is that you find out that Harit's sister, Swati, who was his confidant , and really only friend, has passed away, in a circumstance that you find out later in the book.
And what they found was that in 1985, the average person had three confidantes , three people that they could confide in, that they considered close friends. When they redid that study in 2004, that number dropped from a three to one close confidant , to one close friend.
And we're now at a place in American history where more Americans say they don't have someone to talk to about important subjects than people who do. And to give you a sense of what that change looks like, the number of people who don't have that confidant has tripled in just the last generation. So we're in a time where there may be more longing to be connected than ever before.
And in real life, most people don't change. It was like her daughter, her companion, her sleeping bag, confidant .
isolated. One in four Americans, it claimed, said that they have no confidant , no close friend, no
Remember that study I showed you in the beginning of the, the talk, the one in four American's have no confidant ?