really hit home when I actually went out to Eastern Bosnia and I came across an older woman who really, like literally berated me. And we were doing a civil society development project.And she said to me, you know, civil society and these concepts of democracy and human rights that you talk to us about, that's easy for you to talk
I feel like I'm in "The Graduate." It was plastic. We berate them. We mash them.
and it doesn't just stay in your head. When I would berate myself, I would show up poorly with my family. When I would berate myself, I would bring that same negative voice to my team at work, and my team would start second-guessing
When I would berate myself, I would show up poorly with my family. When I would berate myself, I would bring that same negative voice to my team at work, and my team would start second-guessing themselves, and then, you know, Alpine would freeze, and people would feel bad about themselves.
But my parents were really kind. They never berated me. But the berating voice is in my head.
They never berated me. But the berating voice is in my head. And I wonder if-- now maybe this goes to the title of your book you know where anxiety can be a superpower.
This mother had the wisdom to see in her child's eyes that this little girl had a gift. And rather than berating her or scolding her, she said, tell me all about it, sweetheart. And there's something in that story, which is, as parents we have an ability to see the gift in each of our children
And for many people, this was an easy decision to make, because the freeways that are now brand-new allow easy access to and from the suburbs. They begin beating and berating those along the wall.
Because often your soul already told you and everything else is just a negotiation with your fear. Give yourself permission to stop berating yourself and shift from being your harshest critic to your best friend.
I thought, you know, them watching TV is much better than me yelling at them. And then I sort of silently berated myself for being that parent who couldn't parent as well as a TV could. And then I sat down at Google-- yes, Google-- typed into the search bar, "How do I stop yelling at my kids?"
So then suddenly being cut open and all of this stuff, and then a baby being slammed on my chest. All these things, you berate yourself with.
I had to accept that I needed people around me who disagreed with me and actively make those steps. And Stonewall wouldn't have achieved anything if we berated everybody every time someone did something wrong.
What I do remember is how I felt. Before when I would freak out and then berate myself for losing it, I felt stuck, and helpless, and terrible. My mood worsen, and I just couldn't get myself into a better space no matter how hard I tried.
And then comes this magic moment when we realize oh, it's been quite some time since I last felt a breath. That's the moment where instead of the berating ourselves, and chastising ourselves, and feeling like a failure. We practice letting go, with practice beginning again.
Because often your soul already told you and everything else is just a negotiation with your fear. I started basically giving myself permission to stop beating myself up and berating myself And over time, and I'm still working on this
Because she noted that there's actually another leading candidate, who, in a documentary, was seen-- and this is on the record, on tape, not anonymously-- being the boss from hell, berating staffers, humiliating one of them in front of all of her colleagues. And the candidate was even caught on camera acknowledging being-- and I quote-- "a giant asshole." Any guesses who that candidate is?
But this particular one was out of 2014. OK-- there are some things that obviously-- and the reason why I berate this is because this is real.
One thing we definitely didn't want do is just be a bunch of Hollywood liberals showing up in these different cities and kind of just preaching to the choir, or just berating people to vote. And so it was a really smart idea to engage the local community, have a lot of local activists onstage talking, from their own experience in the community,
and they can't afford to play the infinite game. called. And the gate agent literally berated him.
And so what happens is then they yell at me, we are putting out shoes on! my natural reaction, was to berate myself and get angry with myself.
and Tyrone where Tyrone wakes Jason up in bed. And there's a scene in Jason's bedroom, where Tyrone is kind of berating him and telling him that he wants him to like step up and be a man. And when I would run through it just as Jason or just as Tyrone, it just didn't feel right
Like, we, we lost money on this deal, and it was the worst, the worst deal we ever did. And this internal coach just went crazy, just started, like, berating me. You know, "Graham, you're an idiot.
We know this. We've seen the videos of Karen at the front of the McDonald's line berating an 18-year-old because her fries are cold.
The key, though, is don't just go up to some random superstar and berate them with questions and asking for favors.
And so the same is true on retreat that you-- I've done this a lot, where I'm berating myself for not being calm or not being as focused or whatever.
Whereas if you're rock climbing, if you're-- well, if you're beekeeping, you're usually berating yourself for the many mistakes you've just done--
He said, well, because I had a breakfast with him with a number of newspaper editors this morning, and I was berating him for his